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Episode #30: What Your Kids Feel During Divorce That They Don’t Say: A Child-Centred Guide for Parents
Children may communicate divorce-related feelings through behaviour instead of words. This child-centred guide, inspired by a conversation with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe on The Divorce Circle Podcast, explains how parents can listen, reduce conflict, support two-home routines, and help children feel emotionally safe after separation.
Episode #28: Strength After Divorce: Escaping Abuse, Living With MS, and Starting Over
Starting over after abuse, separation, illness, or financial uncertainty is not a single decision. It is a series of choices made when life may feel least predictable: getting through the day, asking for help, putting one foot in front of the other, and slowly trusting yourself again. In this episode of The Divorce Circle, host and mortgage broker Sabeena Bubber, Mortgage Broker for Xeva Mortgage speaks with strength and nutrition coach Michelle Troll about leaving an abusive marriage, arriving in Canada with her young daughter and very limited resources, living with Multiple Sclerosis (MS), and rebuilding a life grounded in physical and emotional strength. Their conversation offers a compassionate reminder that recovery does not have to look dramatic to be real. Often, it begins with one small promise kept to yourself.
Episode #27: Collaborative Divorce, AI, and High-Conflict Family Law: What to Know
Divorce does not have to begin with a courtroom battle. For many families, the most important question is not, "How do I win?" It is, "How do I reach a fair resolution while protecting my children, finances, privacy, and future?" In this episode of The Divorce Circle, host Sabeena Bubber, Mortgage Broker for Xeva Mortgage speaks with Russell Alexander, founder of Russell Alexander Collaborative Family Lawyers. Russell has practised family law for more than 25 years, is a trained collaborative family lawyer, and is the host of Family Law Now.
Episode #26: Financial Clarity Creates Freedom: Rebuilding Wealth After Divorce
ivorce changes more than your relationship status. It can change your retirement plan, your housing goals, your investment strategy, and your sense of what is possible. When shared assets are divided and the future you planned for changes course, the financial decisions can feel overwhelming.
Episode #25: You Are Not Behind. You Are Just Getting Started: A Financial Fresh Start After Divorce
Divorce has a way of making women feel like they have fallen behind, financially, personally, and in ways that are difficult to put into words. The assets you built together are now divided. The income you relied on has changed. And the financial future you imagined looks completely different from the one you are now facing. But here is what Canadian personal finance expert and bestselling author Lesley-Anne Scorgie wants every woman to understand: feeling behind is not the same as being behind. And starting over is not failure, it is a new starting line.
Episode #24: Should You Keep the House After Divorce? What Your Lawyer Isn't Telling You
One of the most emotionally charged decisions in any divorce is the question of the family home. For many people — especially parents — keeping the house feels like the right thing to do. It represents stability, continuity, and a sense that not everything has to change at once. But wanting to keep the house and being able to keep it — financially and strategically — are two very different things.
Episode #23: Navigating Divorce, Finances, and Homeownership: A Guide for South Asian Women
In a recent episode of The Divorce Circle podcast, host Sabeena Bubber, Mortgage Broker with Xeva Mortgage sat down with Pawan Rai, a highly experienced family lawyer based in Surrey, B.C. and a partner at WLG Lawyers. Pawan specializes in helping women navigate difficult divorce situations, with a significant focus on the South Asian community.
Episode #22: Why Smart People Make Bad Financial Decisions During Divorce (And How to Stop)
Divorce is one of the most emotionally and financially devastating events a person can go through. It is a time characterized by massive upheaval, logistical nightmares, and intense emotional pain. Yet, it is exactly during this period of maximum stress that you are expected to make some of the most consequential financial decisions of your life.
Episode #21: Rebuilding Your Self-Image After Divorce: Why Talk Therapy Isn't Enough
Divorce doesn't just break a marriage; it often shatters your self-image. When the life you planned falls apart, it is common to feel fragmented, stuck in survival mode, and unable to trust yourself or others. Many high achievers try to speed through the pain, hoping to reach the "next thing" as quickly as possible. But what if rushing the process is exactly what keeps you stuck?
Episode #20: Part Two: The 2-Year Trap: Why You Need a Cohabitation Agreement Before Moving In
Moving in with a partner is an exciting milestone. It often feels like the natural next step in a serious relationship. However, what many couples fail to realize is that in many jurisdictions, simply living together for a certain period of time triggers massive legal and financial liabilities.
Episode #20: Part One: Why Divorce Court Is a Mistake for Most People (And What to Do Instead)
When a marriage ends, the default assumption for many people is that they need to hire an aggressive lawyer and prepare for battle in family court. Television and movies have conditioned us to believe that divorce is inherently a courtroom drama. However, the reality is that litigation is often the most destructive, expensive, and emotionally draining way to separate.
Episode #19: How to Know If Your Relationship Is Actually Right for You
Are you quietly questioning your relationship? You are not alone. Many high-functioning, successful individuals find themselves stuck in "relationship limbo"—the exhausting mental loop of wondering whether to stay and rebuild, or leave and start over.
Episode #18: Why So Many Women Rethink Their Lives in Perimenopause & Menopause
In a recent episode of The Divorce Circle Podcast, I sat down with Dr. Maryam Zeineddin — a family physician with over 20 years of clinical experience, founder of Zili CARE, and one of the most compelling voices in Canadian preventative health — to unpack the real connection between hormonal changes, chronic stress, and the decision to separate.
Episode #17: The Financial Protection Most People Don’t Think About Until It’s Too Late
When navigating a divorce, most people are hyper-focused on the immediate financial fires: dividing assets, calculating spousal support, and figuring out who keeps the house. But what happens if the unexpected strikes after the ink is dry on your settlement?
Episode #16: Estate Planning Mistakes That Can Destroy Your Divorce Settlement
Divorce marks the end of a marriage, but it doesn’t automatically sever all legal and financial ties. One of the most overlooked—and potentially costly—aspects of divorce is updating your estate plan. Failing to do so can have devastating consequences, potentially overriding your divorce settlement and creating chaos for your loved ones.
Episode #15: Do You Have to Sell Your Home After Divorce? The Truth About Reverse Mortgages
Do you have to sell your home after divorce? Discover how a reverse mortgage can help you access your home equity, pay off debt, and stay in the home you love. Learn the truth about reverse mortgages.
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Episode #14: Do You Need a Divorce Coach? Rebuilding Yourself After Divorce
Divorce is more than a legal process; it’s an emotional journey. An empowerment coach shares how to rebuild your identity, energy, and direction after divorce and emerge stronger than ever before.
Episode #13: Mortgages After Divorce: Can You Qualify on Your Own?
Wondering if you can qualify for a mortgage after divorce? An accredited mortgage professional shares expert tips on how to navigate the Canadian mortgage landscape and reclaim your financial independence.
Episode #12: Why Going to Court in Divorce Is Almost Never Worth It: A Top Litigator Explains
Thinking of taking your divorce to court? A top Vancouver litigator explains why it’s a financially and emotionally devastating process and what you should do instead. Save yourself time, money, and heartache.